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If you wanna be a slut

The Urban dictionary defines ‘SLUT’ as; A woman with the morals of a man. However Wikipedia describes the word as a term used for a ‘person who is considered to have loose sexual morals and being sexually promiscuous’ and elaborates ‘a woman of low or loose character’.

For the last two decades, derogatory terms against women who are open about their sexuality and who have several sexual partners, have been casually thrown around frequently, although feminists, activists and TV shows such as ‘Sex in the City’ have been fighting against this negative attitude towards women.slut1As the westernized world is slowly moving forward on gender-equality, it’s gotten easier for women to be more promiscuous, to be open to friends and partners about their sexual desires. Still, do we have a GOOD word for this..? Something that we all have a positive association to? Or can we CHANGE the meaning of the word ‘Slut’?

More and more women in the western world are enjoying the perks of being sexually active with several partners, but most of those who don’t are still struggling with the conditioned mind that puts the ego and pride in the way of their desires. And shame, fear of being truthful in case future partners will judge and value them less.slutIf you wanna be a slut, be a slut and love yourself for it!!

I haven´t posted anything here in a really long time. And it´s not because I haven´t been having sex. The last year I’ve basically fucked everything that can be fucked. Haha.. Just kidding. Not really…

About a year and a half ago me and my boyfriend broke up. We had been together for a long time and after that I went a little crazy. I had a little ”slutty phase” in my teens, but I quickly discovered that having that phase in your teens and mid to late twenties is totally different. Cause you know more about sex and what you want/don´t want.

When I was younger I often felt bad, guilty, slutty after a one night stand. But this time, when I was suddenly single again, not looking for a new boyfriend (And in what I like to think of as my sexual peak) I thought to myself that I´m an adult, and if I want to fuck someone and that someone wants to fuck me too. What´s the harm? As long as I´m clear with this person about what I want and as long as I don´t hurt anyone.

So… I went crazy! Throughout this year and a half I’ve also been traveling a lot. Meeting people I will never see again. Which makes it a lot easier to have meaningless sex. I know a lot of people say that one night stands always suck. I have found that this isn’t always true. And people that say that, usually haven´t had a lot of one night stands.. Sometimes they suck. But sometimes sex with a guy you like sucks too right?

I found out that at least for me, it´s easier to relax and go crazy when I don´t give a shit about what the other person thinks of me. When there is a guy I like, or someone I know I might bump into later, or who knows someone I know. I don´t wanna be that crazy girl who asked to be fucked really hard and choked. But when it´s someone I´m never gonna see again, I can ask him to do anything I want. Cause who the fuck cares? I don´t give a shit if he thinks I´m freaky! Is this just me or do y´all agree?

Some of my friends have told me that I’ve been acting like a fucking slut. And yeah I have. But who cares? If I was a guy, I would get high fives and fist bumps all over the place. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. One time I walked up to this really hot guy in a nightclub and asked him straight out: ”Hey! Do you wanna fuck?”. And he said yes. The sex was amazing. So girls, if you want it. Go get it.

Also a lot of girls told me that they are worried about what their future boyfriend/husband will say if he finds out you slept with a lot of guys. My theory is that it´s none of his damn business. This was before you met him. As long as you promise to be faithful to him, it shouldn’t matter who you slept with in the past. The past is the past. If you say this to him, then you of course can´t demand to know how many he slept with either. But why would you? I wouldn’t wanna know how many my boyfriend slept with. No good would come of it in my opinion.

What I´m trying to get across here isn’t that I´m some sexual god that has it all figured out. Because in the long run, I think everyone wants that special person that you can come home to after a shitty day and just be yourself. But until you find that person. Go have some fun! Live a little. I don´t wanna be 50 years old and curious about what it´s like to fuck around. So girls. If you wanna be slutty. Go be slutty! And feel good about it! You´re the boss of your own body. If you want an orgasm, go get it!

5 comments on “If you wanna be a slut

  1. Ann St. Vincent
    December 12, 2014

    I am 41 and although most of my friends absolutely think my sexual exploration (with yes, lots of men) is now fantastic, there is absolutely still a double standard when it comes to dating. It’s infuriating.

    • sexyostrich
      December 16, 2014

      Absolutely!
      It is getting better, slowly but surely, but I find a lot of my female friends are being held back by shame, pride and fear. I try to talk to a lot of my male friends about the issue, and some do have a rather neutral views on it, and those that don’t, Well… I attempt to convert them without too much lecturing.. Ha ha.

  2. Ann St. Vincent
    December 16, 2014

    I still hear of men who think that a woman who sleeps with them on the first or second date isn’t relationship material. That is what I find rhe worst double standard.

    • sexyostrich
      December 17, 2014

      It’s almost unbelievable that that is true..! That’s what I mean, that’s what makes some of my friends fearful, proud and deny themselves what they want, all I can do is make them realize that they don’t WANT to be with a man who thinks like that. Ever.

      • Ann St. Vincent
        December 17, 2014

        I had a lover recently who thought that male perception was ridiculous… which of course endeared himself to me greatly. We happened to meet at a threesome, so it was rather amusing.

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